Back in the Hospital

July 27, 2014

Simon is back in the hospital. I was out with the kids all day yesterday while his sister cared for him at the house.  She was texting me updates with his temperature, blood pressure, eating, and mobility.  All were declining throughout the day. We had the kids stay at my parents’ house and got Simon’s oncology office on the phone.  They recommended going to the ER.

Simon was in too much pain to travel via car. So we called 911.  The firefighters, paramedics, and EMTs were kind and helpful, but had a look on their faces that we are getting used to.  The look that says “34-year-olds-shouldn’t-have-cancer-and-shouldn’t-look-like-this.”  Simon was too weak to talk so I tackled all the medical questions they asked us rapidly.  At one point, the paramedic asked, “So are there any other medical conditions beside the cancer?” I got a bit snarky with him and said something like, “Well, there are lots of other medical conditions.  That’s what happens in stage four cancer.” He quickly apologized and said that was not what he meant.  I apologized, too. Nobody seems to be an expert on how to handle dying young.

As the last firefighter was leaving, he tried his best to straighten up our rug and leave the house in the best condition he could. He was staring at me with sad eyes. I asked him to keep us in their prayers – that we have three young kids and this was all so hard.  He said he would and I know he will.

Simon’s sister rode with him in the ambulance and my dad and I followed.  Normal protocol upon ambulance arrival to the ER  is that family waits in the lobby until the patient has been triaged. But God knows that doesn’t fly with us in this unique situation.  The EMTs let me go back in to the employee-only area so I could communicate on Simon’s behalf.  And within five minutes of arrival, I saw two employees that I knew from high school who follow the blog and took extra measures to get us comfortable.  I even snuck Simon apple juice against medical advice. If my honey wants apple juice, or heck anything, at this point, he is getting it.

We still don’t know specifics for this current visit.  He was admitted and they are running a gamut of tests.  After being handed a terminal diagnosis almost six weeks ago, our hearts are pretty well prepared for any news.  Not much shock value left these days.  And if whatever is going on is temporarily fixable, then Hallelujah!  Bring the man home and get him ice cream.  Or apple juice.  Or a pony.

We’ll keep you updated.  We tried our best to take a sad-face selfie because, yes, we try to find a bit of humor or joy even in these dark days.

sad faces


  1. Judy Flint on July 27, 2014 at 12:46 pm

    Love you Simon Caver

    • Michelle on July 27, 2014 at 4:26 pm

      I dont know you ,But my heart and prayers are with you. You are doing an amazing job Kristy! I pray that Simon you and your family be comforted by our Loving father.

  2. Patrick and Ina Segura on July 27, 2014 at 12:50 pm

    Dear Simon and Kristy, just want to let you know that you are both in our prayers. Kristy this is a wonderful blog thanks for being so strong and continuing to update us. My heart goes out to you both. We will continue with our prayers . May God bless you!

  3. Bonnie Duenas on July 27, 2014 at 1:01 pm

    Kristy – Simon is in prayers. – Worked with him at ChoicePoint.
    So Sad to here he is very sick. Bonnie

  4. Cathy Guarnacci on July 27, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    Hang in there my friend. You are so strong. Thank you for the updates. Prayers are coming everyday to you and your family.

  5. Nicole ramos pappo on July 27, 2014 at 1:19 pm

    Just pure tears down my face right now… And not just with sadness but admiring the way you are handling This right now. I don’t think I could still keep my humor… Or sanity. you’re amazing. Praying everyday for you and your children.

  6. Halley Hogan Knuth on July 27, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    praying now. keep strong and know He holds the future, whatever it may be.

  7. Jan on July 27, 2014 at 2:20 pm

    As I said when I saw this news last night… DANG IT!!! Praying for you and love you!!

  8. Susan Bedier on July 27, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    Praying for Simon, you and family.

  9. andy scott on July 27, 2014 at 3:43 pm

    Dear Simon, If I could take you out on the back deck one more time, I would. Or maybe Matt Foust and I could just put your hospital bed on top of the dining hall. Either way, you’re still one of my favorites, brother. I’ve been meaning to tell you how encouraging it’s been the last little bit to read and hear about your faith. Keep fighting and carry the cross, my friend.

    • bryan simmons on August 4, 2014 at 6:03 am

      Thank you for being our friend and brother, Simon Caver.

  10. Matthew Frickert on July 27, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    My family’s thoughts and hopes are with you guys. Sending much love your way.

  11. Tara Collins on July 27, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Daily love & prayers from Atlanta, Texas. ❤️❤️❤️

  12. Jo Edwards on July 27, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    Love you Simon & praying for you!

  13. Paula Clayton Swanson on July 27, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    I always loved Simon. Hew was such an adorable little boy. Always happy and positive. We are praying for him in west Texas. May God grant you a miracle.

  14. Andrea Berry Stanley on July 27, 2014 at 5:02 pm

    Praying for you all!

    Please let Callie know I think of her (and you all) daily.

  15. Krissy on July 27, 2014 at 6:15 pm

    Just wanted you to know I just learned about Simon and your precious family and will be praying for you.

  16. Belinda Pettit on July 27, 2014 at 6:39 pm

    Prayers from your hometown Simon…..and the Pettits. :). Daily.

  17. Matt T on July 27, 2014 at 7:07 pm

    All you guys are in my prayers. Keep fighting the good fight, Simon!

  18. Joe Saavedra on July 27, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    Thank you Kristy for your example of loyalty, dedication, honesty, and courage. Simon has one heck of a cheerleader by his side regardless of circumstances. May God’s sustenance continue to pour into the soul of the Cavers. And may He ALWAYS show you that you are not alone…
    Lifting you, Nomis, and the kids up in prayer.

    Joe S.

  19. Kelly Caver on July 27, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    I hate how up and down this is 🙁 praying that whatever is happening is temporary and that he can come home soon to quiet and kids and ice cream and family and friends. Love you guys.

  20. Karissa on July 27, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Sending prayers for your family from North Carolina.

  21. margaret on July 27, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    I want to start a team of people praying each day (no particular length of time –just for 40 days straight ) for Simon. I would also like to see if we could get 40 people to fast 1 day each for the 40 days or 20 people to do 2 days (not necessarily 2 in a row.) I will fast tomorrow. Who can take the next day? If you are interested please private message me on Facebook (Margaret Hanson Luevano) Let’s band together and pray for a miracle!

  22. Trisha Cox on July 27, 2014 at 11:16 pm

    You are in our prayers. Simon: Your Amtrak family loves you. So many of us are here for you and your wonderful family. Jeff and I accept you for who you are, and think of you as our good friend. You are in our hearts.
    Kristy: Please know that Simon has a lot of friends at Amtrak. We consider Simon our family, that also means that you and your children are our family too. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. Simon has alot of friends at work that are praying for him. Your strength is amazing. Stay strong. Your blog is wonderful, and I am mostly in tears reading about your amazing family and love story. We send our love and prayers to you.

  23. Kim on July 28, 2014 at 4:37 am

    I’m praying for you and your family. God is able to do anything. I remember Simon when we were in high school, lol, he was a mess.

  24. Lee Thompson Mays on July 28, 2014 at 5:58 am

    Lifting all of you up in prayer.

  25. Melissa on July 28, 2014 at 6:42 am

    I don’t know you or your family but you all are in my prayers.

  26. Matthew Rafferty on July 28, 2014 at 7:33 am

    Kristy my name is Matthew Rafferty I worked with Simon almost every week with simon on the surfliner. Simon, you and your kids are in my thoughts and prays every day. Also please let Simon know the I order juice for the kids every day. You might get a smile out of Simon when you tell him. May god bless Simon, you and your family.
    Matthew Rafferty
    PS please let me know if I could help.

  27. Becky Everett-Watson on July 28, 2014 at 7:58 am

    sigh. I know. I can’t find words, so just know that I am praying, and many are praying. sigh.

  28. Dana Vaden on July 28, 2014 at 8:14 am

    My husband and I pray for your family daily. He is able…. and I am daily moved by the enormity of your faith. May God hold you close today. Hugs.

  29. Irene Hahn on July 28, 2014 at 8:38 am

    You all are in my prayers. Tears, heart aches.

  30. Pat Collins on July 28, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    Every day is a good day for a miracle. God’s Kingdom come, His will be done in your lives.

  31. Nancy Morris on July 29, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    In our prayers !

    Dr. Dave and Nancy




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