January 27, 2015

Simon was very clear in expressing that he did not want me to stop living when he died. He did not want life to be stalled in a state of sorrow. And, as much as possible, we have tried to balance grief and find joy. We still attend weekly therapy, individually and as a family. There has been amazing progress in how we express and embrace feelings. I attend a monthly widow’s group, a safe haven for fellow women who have lost husbands. It is a place to honor the men we loved and learn how to cope, even thrive, under the weight of loss. The kids and I talk about Simon every day. We miss him. We always will. His legacy impacts how we live our lives. Yet, even in our mourning, we still go on vacation. We still have our local theme park passes. We have impromptu living room dance parties. We fellowship with our spiritual family at church. We genuinely smile and laugh, sometimes with tears rolling down our cheeks. By God’s grace, we are waking up each day with hope for the future.

In late November, a longtime friend of Simon’s visited. They had worked together for a short term missions organization that leads groups all over the world. That period of time left a huge impression on Simon’s life. This friend and I reconnected in a meaningful, deep, platonic way. We have spent countless hours talking and spending intentional time together and with the kids during the last two months. The prayers of so many have been for discernment. We felt those prayers. With careful prayer individually and consideration for everyone involved, we have made the mindful decision to start a relationship

Those that have met him are excited and supportive. We understand though the mixed emotions that come with the news. There is no timeline for the feelings of loss just as there is no timeline for love.

Your prayers are coveted as this widow’s journey continues.

K & J


  1. Leah on January 27, 2015 at 10:10 pm

    Blessings!! You go girl! I am so happy for you and know the rollercoaster this life can be! It’s worth the ride.

  2. Polly on January 27, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    Congratulations on this step! Can’t wait to watch God at work in this. Wishing you much happiness and love as you continue the journey.

  3. Chuck on January 27, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    I absolutely adore you. You have been an inspiration to me. I’m so excited for this new chapter in your life and can’t wait to meet this, from what I know so far, this kind and loving man.

  4. Jan on January 27, 2015 at 10:34 pm

    You know you have my support! Yep, Auntie Jan is excited and really likes this friend of yours!!

  5. Georgia Small on January 27, 2015 at 10:49 pm

    I’m so excited for you both! We will continue to pray for guidance and peace add your new adventures unfold!

  6. Janet B on January 27, 2015 at 11:22 pm

    I am very happy for you and will continue to keep you, family and friend in my prayers!!!!

  7. Judy on January 28, 2015 at 3:17 am

    Yes, yes, yes!!!

  8. eneubauer on January 28, 2015 at 3:42 am

    What an intense story. My life has been filled with loss lately and your approach to loss and life is inspirational. Many blessings.

  9. Rachel Soto on January 28, 2015 at 5:59 am

    i know you have not entered into this lightly but have given it much thought, bringing it before the Lord. I’m so happy for you all and will con’t to pray for His blessings upon this relationship, your family and the journey ahead. Love you, my sweet friend. 🙂

  10. Tammy Lummus on January 28, 2015 at 6:41 am

    Happy for you. You & the kids are never far from my thoughts. Cherish the memories of Simon, but live your life. Live well. He would be proud of you.

  11. Beverly1930 on January 28, 2015 at 6:54 am

    My heart is happy for your heart. Blessings!

  12. Lori on January 28, 2015 at 7:11 am

    I wondered how long it would be before you told us. Congrats!

  13. Cathy on January 28, 2015 at 7:41 am

    So so happy for you. Enjoy every minute.

  14. Kristina McCloskey on January 28, 2015 at 7:49 am

    You have always shown hope for the future as well as celebrated the joy in your past. So excited for you all and your family!

  15. Dave Potter on January 28, 2015 at 9:47 am

    Its all in Gods plan Your faith is awesome May your future be filled with many prayers being answered

  16. Sammy on January 28, 2015 at 11:02 am

    i am so happy for you both!! This is amazing news. Debbie and I will continue to lift you all up in prayer!!

  17. Judy Colwell on January 28, 2015 at 2:33 pm

    As the LORD is leading, it is always for the best. Lean into Him and His word..Embrace Isaiah 26:3 as you journey through this new adventure….Beyond happy for you!

  18. Salinda on January 29, 2015 at 5:49 am

    My friend: we all know God works in ways we don’t always understand. Please know that we love and support you. From everything I have seen, heard and read, he sounds like a keeper. My heart fills with joy that God has brought the chance for great long lasting love your way again. No one deserves it more than you. We fully understand that no one could ever take Simon or his memory away from you and the kids. It is absolutely wonderful to see joy on your face again though after such a difficult time. You continue to be an amazing woman of God, wonderful mother and great friend. I am beyond excited to share in this next part of your life. God is good. Love you my friend.

  19. D. Frank on January 29, 2015 at 8:06 am

    With all my heart, I wish you NOTHING but amazing joy as you work through it all with your family. I offer my full full support with great joy in your journey. God never ceases to amaze me in how He works His wonders in the lives of His children, and you are an amazing example of how much He loves us….Congratulations, kiddo! I love to see you smile!!!

  20. Linda Cuccia on January 29, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    Dearest Kristy you are in our prayers for God’s leading. I got chills as I read this.




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