Happy Birthday

August 20, 2014

Simon would have turned 35 today. He died 18 days ago. It seems longer. Maybe because he was already dying when he got diagnosed and we just didn’t know it yet. This whole summer seemed to move in slow motion as we lived it but now that it’s over, it went so, so fast. Unbelievably fast.

Simon didn’t care for parties on his birthday. His birthday is within a week of our son’s and my brother’s birthday. Occasionally he would tolerate a casual party to celebrate all three guys. One year he went skydiving. A few times, he got tattoos. Last year, we stayed at the hotel next to Knott’s Berry Farm. We did a day at Knott’s, a day at the waterpark, a day at the pool, and Simon snuck off for beer with friends one of the evenings. He was also thrilled to discover the hotel had a sauna. He wasn’t much for pampering but would make exceptions for a good sauna or Chinese acupressure massage.

So we’re headed to Knott’s again to make the best of this tough day, this tough week, this tough summer. I wanted him to still be here. I wanted to give him a hard time about officially being middle aged. I wanted to race down a waterslide with him and scream on a roller coaster with him. I miss him. I miss his help. I miss the way he loved our kids. I miss the way he could read my emotions when I got sick of being around my family and would help me escape for a few hours. I want to hear him say he loves me again. To tell me I’m beautiful again. He did that often. Even on his birthdays.

I’m going to try and have fun anyway. That’s what he would have wanted. So this next roller coaster ride is for you, Simon. This next cannonball in the pool. The next ice cream cone. The next carnival game. The next hug with Snoopy. The next smile. The next laugh.

Happy Birthday, Simon.



  1. Melody on August 20, 2014 at 7:15 am

    Already thinking and praying for you today. Love you guys!

  2. Alicia Wagner on August 20, 2014 at 7:23 am

    Happy Birthday to Simon in heaven. Im glad you are doing something fun he liked too.

  3. Grace on August 20, 2014 at 7:32 am

    Happy Heavenly Birthday Simon!

    Prayers my friend

  4. Jenn Lind on August 20, 2014 at 7:40 am

    Happy birthday, Simon.

  5. Linda Manley on August 20, 2014 at 8:03 am

    Sad for us….but, Simon is celebrating this birthday with JESUS….what a gift! Prayers continue…

  6. Sally Lindsey on August 20, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Praying for you and your family today and every day. God bless you.

  7. Dede Forst on August 20, 2014 at 8:16 am

    Prayers for you & the kids today as you live your new normal.

  8. Linda Cuccia on August 20, 2014 at 8:19 am


  9. Jan on August 20, 2014 at 8:21 am

    Praying for a wonderful time for you and the family, Kristy! Sounds like Simon would enjoy this birthday celebration! So you enjoy it, too! Glad you can be with family who love you! And Simon, Happy Birthday! Can’t wait to give you a bunch of birthday hugs in person… Then again, will we even have to?

  10. PapaSteve on August 20, 2014 at 8:24 am

    You do cannonballs in the pool?

  11. Irene Hahn on August 20, 2014 at 8:24 am

    Happy birthday Simon!

  12. Christy on August 20, 2014 at 8:38 am

    Happy 1st birthday in Heaven Simon! I am sure the cake taste way better up there.
    Kristy if ever you need a help with anything Bryan is handy and has connections to people that are very handy if he cannot do it. Please let us know. Take care.

  13. Cathy on August 20, 2014 at 8:53 am

    Happy Birthday, Simon.
    Miss you lots, have a great day.

  14. Erin Rodriguez on August 20, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    Happy birthday Simon!

  15. Brandy Scoggins on August 20, 2014 at 3:06 pm

    Happy Birthday Simon~
    Skydiving! Love the adventure in his soul. Yes, he set the bar high for living this life..I’m inspired by him even now..You, too, inspire me daily. Hope you and the kids had a blast today celebrating Simon and making more happy memories.

    (That is a fantastic photo!)

  16. Kelly Galea on August 22, 2014 at 8:22 am

    ahhh… your sincere heartfelt words always get me…. You are beautiful inside and out Kristy…. Simon lived his life fully! Happy Birthday to the Simon we knew and loved!




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